medical

Our office medical has open enrollment once a year.  Typical stuff.

Each year, someone comes up to me and says, "You know your daughter doesn't have medical through our office."  I think they are expecting me to flip my lid, like so:

"OMG.  What?!  I mean, she popped out of me 4 years ago and she doesn't have medical?!  I thought that stuff was automatic!!! AHHHHHHHHHH."

Their read: they think I'm either skipping out on my daughter's medical cus I think it's unimportant or I'm too stupid to realize that she's not covered on the company plan. 

My read: I've been a parent for 4 years, 5 months and 6 days.  I know how this stuff works.  My daughter has had to go to the hospital for "well baby" check ups since she was born.  She's had to have shots since she was born.  There have been trips to the emergency room since she's been born.  They think they are doing me a favor by "reminding" me that my daughter isn't covered through their office, but I KNOW THIS. 

I don't know if it sounds this way to you, but this feels like an insult.  Do not question how I take care of my daughter.  Save the questioning for her father - he's the only who isn't doing anything (another post for another day that I won't bother posting because he's not worth the energy exaulted by my fingerstrokes on the keyboard).

Today one of the owners of the company comes to my desk.  The convo went like this:

Owner: You know, I was looking over the medical and I see that your daughter isn't covered on our plan.

Goldie: Oh.  I know.  I have had my own plan.  She's going to be on the company plan effective July 1 though. 

Owner: Oh.  So you had her covered elsewhere?

Goldie (making small talk): Yeah.  I had her on a plan where I was only paying $8 a month! 

Owner (look of lightweight disgust): What type of coverage was that?!

Goldie: NameOfLargestMedicalGroupInCalifornia.

Owner (surprised): Ohhh.  Well, you know you're only paying 20% of our plan.

The End.

Ok:

1.  Adding insult to insult: assuming that because I'm paying $8 I must have my daughter enrolled in some shotty medical program.  EFF YOU!

2.  Reminding me that I'm only paying 20% of the office plan and the company is paying 80%.  You know what?!  I SHOULD NOT BE PAYING ANYTHING.  No one should.  People shouldn't have to second guess going to the doctor  or emergency room because the bills are going to be expensive.  And people do.  That sucks.  Take your head out of your bottom and realize that I appreciate medical, but you're not making me appreciate it any more by telling me that you/the company are paying 80% and I'm only paying 20%. 

3.  Sometimes I want to yell, I'M NOT STUPID. I'M NOT STUPID. I'M NOT STUPID. I'M NOT STUPID.  I know wtf I'm doing as a parent and any type of unsolicited advise, regardless of the matter or the source, puts parents on the defensive.  Don't go there with me. 

This is irrationally upsetting me.